Heart and Soul Healing during Divorce
Are you facing the end of a relationship and feel like you're lost in the chaos of accusations, pressure, opinions, and shocked that this lifelong dreamed has died? Whether it is a separation, divorce, breakup, or uncoupling, it's incredibly painful emotionally and in many other ways. Just remember that you are never alone. There is a better path with balance, structure. and focus on life beyond the ending of this relationship.
Here's My Divorce Story
Divorce is something that I intimately understand. I was only five years old when my parents divorced and only six years ago I also grieved the end of my own ten year marriage (which was a 14 year relationship). So when I say I know what it's like to walk in your shoes, I've been there on the darkest days.
At the beginning of my divorce, I felt a sense of freedom and an urge to get it resolved as quickly as possible. However, timing was not within my control. What I did have control over was how I was going to handle this delicate phase of my life with dignity, love, and as much emotional intelligence as I could find within me. Amid the chaos of emotions and uncertainty, I relied on creating structure in my career and my home life as a single mother, which gave me a sense of balance. I could breathe because I knew what to expect, except for what the unknowns of how the divorce would get resolved.
I chose to focus as much attention as I could on my future and less attention on dwelling on the past. I made a very conscious choice to focus on healing my broken heart and what felt like a broken soul without relying on anyone else to do the healing for me. I knew when my divorce began that this was my time to focus on what came next for me in life, love, parenting, and in my career. I focused on what I really wanted for my future and how I really wanted to parent without the eyes of an ex-husband’s expectations.
When drama arose, I made a choice to minimize my level of engage because it simply wasn’t worth the energy it would drain from my frail figure. Honestly, my body, heart, and soul were maxed out. I needed to focus on surviving the divorce with minimal conflict so I could move on with my life, which meant discovering who I am outside of my role as a wife which was all I had known for the last 14 years.
Somehow, I found the strength to give myself grace, space, and really worked on finding ways to feel grounded and supported. I had a deep desire to see the light at the end of the tunnel so I could begin to move on and live my life with a sense of freedom and a fresh start.
How I Help My Clients
Personalized Coaching: My approach in working with clients is more of a holistic approach and is customized for each client to ensure they have the support they need. Clients typically have weekly scheduled coaching calls and daily access to me via text or email to help them navigate issues as they arise just as if they had a wingwoman by their side. I’ll be sharing emotional intelligence exercises, meditations, essential oil aromatherapy, Desire Mapping for your future, and healing wounds so you can let go, move on, and finally find your freedom.
Healing: One of the most important steps in relationship coaching is healing, which also often includes the grieving process. Healing is a process of expressing emotions, releasing old beliefs, letting go of past expectations, and feeling whole again. Healing begins with the client and has a ripple effect on the children as well as on future relationships, friendships, and co-parenting. Not only will clients receiving coaching support and the resources mentioned above, but they will also receive access to my online course "Healing Hearts" which includes a module as well as videos, interviews, and audio lessons all focused on healing as well as understanding your desires for life beyond this relationship.
Desires: I help my clients focus on the big picture of where they desire to be and how they desire to show up as strong, stable, and focused. I empower my clients to focus on the future and its world of possibilities rather than being consumed by the constant fear fueling chaos and constant emotional roller coaster. This isn't always easy but with the right tools and support, clients have the power to choose how they show up, how they react, and how they communicate in an effective way.
Why hire me as your coach? Because you'll receive coaching with a recognized relationship expert, retired attorney with 10 years experience, and over 20 years of use of my psychology degree to help clients learn how to effectively communicate in times of crisis as well as use emotional intelligence not only in their personal and professional relationships but also in both parenting & co-parenting situations.
ARE YOU LOOKING FOR A BETTER WAY? ARE YOU READY TO HEAL AND BEGIN THINKING ABOUT THE FUTURE?